Carolyn Bourne, 60-year old woman from UK, has been labeled mother-in-law from hell as her emails to her 29-year old future daughter-in-law Heidi Withers were made public in which she criticised her manners.

Stunned Heidi, a PA in London, forwarded the email to her friends which led the email to become viral.

Check the email –

Heidi’s father Alan Withers, 64, called Carolyn "Miss Fancy Pants".

Speaking from his home in Ledbury, Herefordshire, which is adorned with the family’s own coat of arms, Alan Withers, 64, said: "I was surprised when I read Carolyn’s email to Heidi.

"Heidi was very upset and the two of them obviously don’t see eye to eye. I met Carolyn and her husband Edward for dinner at a pub in London last year.

"Edward was a jovial chap but Carolyn was quite snotty. She had a look about her which made us think she thought she was better than us.

"Ever since that meeting we call her ‘Miss Fancy Pants’.

"It’s very sad what has happened but it’s pointless us getting involved.

"I don’t care if she apologises. You can’t take back what has been said once it’s said.

"Of course at the wedding we will shake hands and toast Heidi and Freddie."

Alan said: "Heidi was sent the email three times in one day. It was sent twice to her personal email and once to her work email.

"The email was very clearly intended to be sent. There was no mistake about what Carolyn was trying to do.

"Carolyn received it at work and forwarded it to me because it had things in it about my wife and I.

"She said to me, ‘What do you think Dad? Should I respond?’

"I told her the best thing to do was not respond to it at all and take the moral high ground.

"A couple of weeks later she and Freddie agreed to jointly respond to her email. I looked at the response once and put it in a drawer.

"I have no desire to meet Carolyn or Edward again before or after the wedding, they don’t know us and we don’t know them."


I feel bad for Freddie Bourne, the 29-year old groom, who has not commented on the matter yet.

The man in the middle – prospective bridegroom and businessman Freddie Bourne, 29, from Putney – was trying hard not to inflame the situation.

“I’m not commenting on the matter,” he said.

Great start for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship!


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